About a year after I started working at my current workplace I was chatting to a colleague who was about 3 or 4 months pregnant. We were talking about babies and families and I said “Naomi did IVF but it was unsuccessful.” I’d say she looked at me strangely but it was a look I’d seen many times before. “My partner is Naomi too,” I said. She sighed, exasperated. “Oh you’re gay,” she said.
“Yes,” I said thinking that surely by now it wasn’t a secret.
“No one told me so I thought were talking about yourself in the third person all the time but then I thought it was my baby brain because you seemed like a nice person and not crazy at all but you were always saying ‘Naomi this and Naomi that’”.
I laughed so hard. The poor woman. So I feel I should make clear that not only am I a lesbian but my partner and I also share the same name. I am not talking about myself in the third person or trying to up the SEO in my blog posts!
Naomi and I have been together for 8 years and when people find out we have the same name, they almost always say ‘that must be confusing’ like no two people in close proximity have ever had the same name! I assure you that after 8 years us and those we know have got it sorted!
So don’t let the names confuse you. I’m not crazy – well, not crazy enough to talk about myself in the third person – and you’re not crazy either!